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52hearts: Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like | Hooking Up Smart Here are the most common explanations for why women fall for guys who treat them poorly: Jerks have many qualities that are attractive to women. There’s the mystery surrounding a troubled soul or an enigmatic rebel. They exude confidence, though upon closer inspection it is really arrogance. They are extraverts. They have a lot of charm, i.e. player skills. They appear passionate. Usually, they are most passionate about fulfilling their own needs. Their intense pursuit is flattering and makes women feel special and desirable. It’s a challenge. Women feel that any love worth having should be earned first. They enjoy outplaying a guy (or trying to) at his own game. Jerks keep us guessing; we can’t decipher them. On the flip side, nice guys are boring and predictable.  Women have a “fixer-upper” complex. They look into a guy’s soul and see more than he is showing of himself, and they become hooked on the idea of getting him to open up. A flawed man gives this type of woman someone to work on and mold. They wind up viewing the jerk as someone who is misunderstood and unloved, a lurking lonely soul.  It’s emotional. Women feel excited, disappointed, and confused. The rush of emotions is exciting and addictive. The process inevitably follows this pattern: 1. Jerk shows interest.2. When woman returns interest, jerk draws back and appears nonchalant.3. Jerk waits until woman is confused, then provides attention.4. Repeat. Weak women attract jerks. A jerk will not waste his time on a woman he knows respects herself. He preys on the vulnerable. It requires two parties with low self-esteem. The jerk uses a bad boy demeanor as his cover. His snide remarks and sarcasm are defense mechanisms. Selfish women choose jerks. They are just as shallow, prioritizing pursuit and excitement over a real connection. Women subconsciously replicate their childhoods. If a key male figure in your life was a jerk, you’ll seek out jerks for relationships as an adult. Dating a jerk is the best way to avoid getting into a long-term relationship. Until you are ready to settle down with a sweet guy to have babies with, why not have fun with a jerk? Maybe even be a jerk? It’s a vicious cycle. Women are attracted to jerks, form relationships with them, and then try to justify their choice by seeing things in them that no one else can. This article is somehow both sad and hilarious.. probably because most of it is true.

52hearts:

Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like | Hooking Up Smart

Here are the most common explanations for why women fall for guys who treat them poorly:

Jerks have many qualities that are attractive to women.

  • There’s the mystery surrounding a troubled soul or an enigmatic rebel.
  • They exude confidence, though upon closer inspection it is really arrogance.
  • They are extraverts.
  • They have a lot of charm, i.e. player skills.
  • They appear passionate. Usually, they are most passionate about fulfilling their own needs.
  • Their intense pursuit is flattering and makes women feel special and desirable.

It’s a challenge.

  • Women feel that any love worth having should be earned first.
  • They enjoy outplaying a guy (or trying to) at his own game.
  • Jerks keep us guessing; we can’t decipher them.
  • On the flip side, nice guys are boring and predictable. 

Women have a “fixer-upper” complex.

  • They look into a guy’s soul and see more than he is showing of himself, and they become hooked on the idea of getting him to open up.
  • A flawed man gives this type of woman someone to work on and mold. They wind up viewing the jerk as someone who is misunderstood and unloved, a lurking lonely soul.

 It’s emotional.

  • Women feel excited, disappointed, and confused. The rush of emotions is exciting and addictive.
  • The process inevitably follows this pattern:

1. Jerk shows interest.
2. When woman returns interest, jerk draws back and appears nonchalant.
3. Jerk waits until woman is confused, then provides attention.
4. Repeat.

Weak women attract jerks.

  • A jerk will not waste his time on a woman he knows respects herself. He preys on the vulnerable.
  • It requires two parties with low self-esteem. The jerk uses a bad boy demeanor as his cover. His snide remarks and sarcasm are defense mechanisms.

Selfish women choose jerks.

  • They are just as shallow, prioritizing pursuit and excitement over a real connection.

Women subconsciously replicate their childhoods.

  • If a key male figure in your life was a jerk, you’ll seek out jerks for relationships as an adult.

Dating a jerk is the best way to avoid getting into a long-term relationship.

  • Until you are ready to settle down with a sweet guy to have babies with, why not have fun with a jerk? Maybe even be a jerk?

It’s a vicious cycle.

  • Women are attracted to jerks, form relationships with them, and then try to justify their choice by seeing things in them that no one else can.

This article is somehow both sad and hilarious.. probably because most of it is true.